In my pursuit to become the amazing faciltator I thought I was supposed to be, I took so many wrong turns.

In many ways, giving birth to my son and then having cancer gave me a reality check I so badly needed. 

It forced me to take time away from the world. 

To spend time with my family. 

To rethink the way I was living my life. 

The way I was showing up in the world and my work.

And to make some real changes. 

When I dropped out of college to pursue the skill sets I wanted to acquire, I made the mistake of thinking they were just that- skill sets. 

I didn’t know that everything we learn comes at a price- the price being what we consciously exchanged for the information, and also the unconscious price paid at every other level of our being. 

What I discovered over time is that the physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual worlds are all connected. 

There is no way to acquire something intellectually without it also affecting us on every other level.

Especially if what we’re hoping to learn is a form of poweful energy, such as breathwork or sexuality. 

When I went to school to become an intimacy counselor, all I wanted to learn about was the body, trauma, pleasure, and how to thrive.

What I didn’t realize at the time, was that I was also going to unconsciously absorb my teachers’ unspoken values, unacknowledged views on relationships, and unexpressed prejudices and desires. 

Sexuality as a life force is very much like food. 

Someone who is hungry can put food into their mouth. 

But the quality of the food will have an immediate and measurable effect on the body.

While cookies will help us feel full and satiated in the moment, a sugar crash is ominously imminent. And eating junk food over an extended period of time leaves long term consequences harder to recover from. 

Same thing happened when I pursued my studies in breathwork. 

I didn't realize starting out how important it would be to learn from teachers who actually shared my values, and my views on life. 

I didn’t know that learning potent skills from teachers who weren’t living life within a framework I valued, would ultimately take its toll on me. 

And it absolutely did. 

• I invested in the wrong people and projects.
• I absorbed ideas that went against my beliefs.
• I said yes so many times when I should have said no.
• I prioritized my career instead of my marriage and kids.
• In subtle ways I lost sight of my own priorities and values.
• I got distracted, living for the moment rather than in the moment.
• I focused on launching my reputation rather than taking time for integration.

The price was too large to name, and I spent a long time trying to set my life on track again. 

It’s part of the reason it took over two years to decide I was ready to teach another breathwork cohort. 

Because I needed time to think.

• To overcome my insecurity about whether I was coming from a good place.
• To trust that I had the support around me.
• To know that I was living and embodying the Torah and family values I stand by.
• To believe that I was ready to transmit, not just skills, but a way of life that I was proud of.

People often tell me that my offerings and trainings* are different from others. 

I can’t claim to know exactly why they feel that way.

Only that I know what it is I work so hard to bring into every experience I create. 

I channel and embody the values I seek to bring into this world. My priorities are a Torah lens, a hashkafic framework, and putting family first. 

We all have choices.. 

I’m not here to convince anyone to choose one teacher or training over another. 

If it's the skills you’re looking for, there are a lot of skilled teachers out there. I’ve studied under many of them.

If it’s convenience you’re looking for, there are shortcuts and way easier options than what I offer. 

But if it’s a cohort of people who see the world through the same eyes...

People who aren't perfect, but are committed to figuring it out and supporting each other while we do...

If it's a curriculum dedicated to giving these ideas over in the most wholesome, integrated, fun, and aligned way possible...

I'm here for that. 

I know what makes my work stand out. 

It’s everything that makes me relatable. 

I’m a wife and mom and a person who makes mistakes.

I struggle with parenting and in my relationships.

Me and God are in couples counseling and it’s been going as well as you expect it to go. (read: complicated)

And I’m still choosing showing up fully.

What you see is what you get. 

The skills I teach are skills I model.

The ideas I give over are ideas I live.

And that’s what makes QuintEssence different. 

I’m not here to tell the world that this training is the best.

Only that you will receive my best.

QuintEssence might just be the most honest, vulnerable, and unexpected experience.

And it might be exactly the one you’ve been waiting for. 

Interview slots for this week have completely booked up. 

So I’m opening a few more for those of you who know you belong in this group. 

Deadline to register is May 13. 

Breathe easy, 

Fally

*Yay! You noticed the star!

Breathwork is not the only training I provide. 

As a licensed trainer for IACT since 2018, I also teach a hypnotherapy certification track. Hypnotherapy training is scheduled to begin in the winter.